The recipient of the request may choose to react to the request how he will.
Example: I walk up to a complete stranger. I say, "I would like ot have sex with you." A simple request. No more or less imposing than "I would like a dollar" or "I would like to take your picture" or "I would like to cut in line." Your possible responses are, "Yes", "no", or some counteroffer. If you choose to take it personally, be upset, or consider it an imposition, then that's your issue, not mine.
The only time it's an imposition to be asked something is if I am unable to say no -- and then it's clearly my own issue at work.
So get this, get this PLEASE: *ASK* for what you want. Be willing to hear no. Be willing to hear yes. Be willing to negotiate.
If someone asks you something, don't take it personally. Answer honestly, according to your wants, a yes, a no, or a renegotiation.
Granted, this is not the way we are taught, and you may need to help the other party through this process, but the other way lies deceit and repression.
I am done with this conversation for the evening, and won't argue on another's journal on the matter. You almost never hear me speak in absolutes -- you'll not I am doing so here now. If you get this one, it will set you FREE in a surprising number of ways.
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